The impact of ADHD on relationships: Building stronger connections

Written in association with: Dr Mostafa Shalaby
Published: | Updated: 11/10/2024
Edited by: Karolyn Judge

Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) can significantly impact relationships, particularly when one partner is affected by the condition. ADHD symptoms, such as impulsivity, distractibility and difficulty with organisation, can create misunderstandings, frustration, and miscommunication within personal relationships. However, with understanding, communication and appropriate strategies, it’s possible to strengthen connections and foster healthier relationships. Leading consultant psychiatrist Dr Mostafa Shalaby discusses this in expert detail, below.

Couple discussing the impact of ADHD on their relationship.

How does ADHD affect relationships?

 

ADHD can influence both romantic and family relationships in several ways. Partners or family members may feel ignored or neglected when the individual with ADHD struggles to focus during conversations or forgets important dates. Impulsivity can also lead to decisions or actions that upset the balance of the relationship, while difficulties with time management may cause frustration or unmet expectations.

 

At the same time, individuals with ADHD may experience feelings of inadequacy or guilt for not meeting their partner’s expectations, which can lead to emotional strain. Miscommunication is common, as both parties may misunderstand each other’s intentions.

 

 

Building stronger connections

 

Despite the challenges, building stronger relationships is possible with mutual effort and understanding. Here are some key strategies:

  • Open communication: Honest and open conversations about how ADHD affects daily life are essential. Both partners should express their feelings, frustrations, and needs without judgement.
  • Setting expectations: Clear expectations around responsibilities, time management, and emotional support can help both partners understand what is required to meet each other's needs.
  • Seeking support: ADHD therapy or couples counselling can provide valuable insights and techniques for managing symptoms in a relationship context. A professional can guide partners through effective communication strategies and help navigate difficult situations.
  • Building routines: Establishing consistent routines can be especially beneficial. Regular schedules help minimise the effects of disorganisation or forgetfulness, improving daily interactions and reducing frustration.
  • Fostering empathy: Both partners should work on empathising with each other’s experiences. Understanding that ADHD is a neurological condition can help the non-ADHD partner approach challenges with compassion and patience.

 

 

Strengthening emotional connections

 

ADHD doesn’t have to create a wedge in relationships. With understanding and effort, emotional connections can be enhanced. Regularly checking in on each other’s feelings and maintaining emotional intimacy is crucial for overcoming obstacles and building a resilient partnership.
 



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By Dr Mostafa Shalaby
Psychiatry

Dr Mostafa Shalaby, a renowned consultant psychiatrist based in London, brings extensive expertise in addressing a spectrum of mental health concerns. His main area of expertise is ADHD.

Dr Shalaby's academic journey is marked by notable achievements. With over a decade of experience, Dr Shalaby currently serves as a consultant psychiatrist at his private clinic while also contributing his expertise as a consultant liaison psychiatrist at Ealing Hospital. Dr Shalaby actively engages in additional professional responsibilities. He is the director of undergraduate education (DUE) for Brunel Medical School and the consultant psychiatrist lead for high intensity user services, and he is part of the Leadership and Management Alumni Group. Dr Shalaby is also the project lead for the acute behavioural disturbance project in West London to improve patient and staff safety in general hospitals.

Dr Shalaby has been a member of the Royal College of Psychiatrists since 2019 and has been on the GMC's specialist register in General Adult Psychiatry since 2023. He has been approved under Section 12 of the Mental Health Act since 2020.

He undertook his psychiatric training at St Mary’s Psychiatric Training Scheme in London.

Dr Shalaby plays a big role in raising mental health awareness to the public. This is by talking in public events, in medical conferences where he has spoken about the importance of raising mental health awareness, in social media videos, and in podcasts.

His dedication to patient care, coupled with his academic qualifications and professional experience, positions him as a trusted expert in the field of psychiatry, committed to providing high-quality care and support to his patients.

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